tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27998068.post3431875758521655732..comments2023-12-16T23:08:55.973-08:00Comments on Life as a Mom: Anger and Parenting...Aparnahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06829120477564667304noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27998068.post-50903289978345977952013-04-15T20:26:18.078-07:002013-04-15T20:26:18.078-07:00No matter what the incident is one cannot shout or...No matter what the incident is one cannot shout or scream at another's kid period. YOu can talk it out trying to understnad what happened & how/why the otehr kid responded to & if it is out of line there are always teachers/ coaches etc who can be approached to handle it & take it up. This approach also gives our kid a sense of security that the parents are concerned & direction in case of such incidents occur again. I think I sound very theoretical but it is very important to learn & teach kids that these incidents will occur & they cannot be bullied or how they have to protect themselves. <br /><br />I was in a zoo with my 2.5 year old in a kids goodies shop.I went for billing & gave my card, had to wait as the guy at the billing desk got a call ; my kid started to cry asking for other toys on the table & I was consoling him. At this point the guy still on the phone started yelling at me & my kid to go away from the desk as the crying was disturbing him - in a very degrading tone. I was quiet for about 60 secs trying to comprehend what was heappening, then I rasied my voice & literally pulled the phone off his hand & almost hit him while simultaneously knocking off his computer. The whole shop was watching a lady in a white dress manhandling a man. I was yelling at him on how dare he behaves like this & that I would complain esp when he has a toy shop.....<br /><br />A zoo officer came & quietened me...... I guess all the animal watching had rubbed off the maternal ANIMAL instinct in me. My husband next to me was too stunned to react.<br /><br />It has been over 1.5 years but I still think of it & wonder if I could have behaved differently. I decided that in case of related incidents again I would watch my kid's reaction first & then act with an even tone with others after which I would talk about it to my kid.....Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01579363046257874031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27998068.post-71267426986087988002013-04-08T01:40:06.712-07:002013-04-08T01:40:06.712-07:00I do not think any parent has the right to scream ...I do not think any parent has the right to scream on another kid.<br />There are lot better ways to make him know he was wrong.Pratibhahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03060001943746107173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27998068.post-87434178375801470602013-04-07T10:39:43.882-07:002013-04-07T10:39:43.882-07:00Exactly my thoughts Nibedita !!Exactly my thoughts Nibedita !!Aparnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06829120477564667304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27998068.post-27539606344233303952013-04-06T12:47:07.716-07:002013-04-06T12:47:07.716-07:00That person's over-protective nature is going ...That person's over-protective nature is going to be so harmful to his li'l daughter and unknowingly he is creating problems for him. I understand that he might have some reasons but yelling is completely no-no and that too in a public place....what lesson he was giving to his kid???NBosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08118661184736647512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27998068.post-24525970358932543492013-04-06T01:27:13.047-07:002013-04-06T01:27:13.047-07:00Yes, Aparna, it was sort of crazy just standing th...Yes, Aparna, it was sort of crazy just standing there and watching because you couldn't help but see and hear what was happening.Aparnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06829120477564667304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27998068.post-6281705249266780332013-04-06T01:26:12.797-07:002013-04-06T01:26:12.797-07:00Exactly my feelings too Tulika!Exactly my feelings too Tulika!Aparnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06829120477564667304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27998068.post-38239079110959967242013-04-06T01:24:54.121-07:002013-04-06T01:24:54.121-07:00Thought of your post as I was writing this Uma! Re...Thought of your post as I was writing this Uma! Really left a very bad taste in the mouth, and I wasn't even directly involved.Aparnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06829120477564667304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27998068.post-10232288497948181682013-04-04T00:57:08.456-07:002013-04-04T00:57:08.456-07:00From what you say, it does not seem to have been a...From what you say, it does not seem to have been any major mistake on the kids part to have been shouted at this way. Whatever the provocation, there was no call to raise one's voice and tick off someone else's kid! If my kid was yellled at that way, I think I would definitely have a chat with the other parent - yes my kid made a mistake but do correct him in a mature fashion.Aparnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17348419737425889834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27998068.post-33180801862122882482013-04-03T20:55:06.193-07:002013-04-03T20:55:06.193-07:00You're right about keeping a check on one'...You're right about keeping a check on one's temper. I don't think twice before taking a kid to task.. any kid.. not necessarily mine. However, the intention has to be right and it has to be done without losing one's temper. The gentleman, if we can call him that, was way out of line.Obsessivemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06659233519392456624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27998068.post-22039763727808591562013-04-03T10:11:44.942-07:002013-04-03T10:11:44.942-07:00I am really wary of such over-protective parents.....I am really wary of such over-protective parents..something about which I had written a while ago..Now, this very parent will at another point exasperate about how his ward cries or gives up at the first instance of a minor obstacle. Fighting the child's battles and in this instance unjustifiable ones is doing serious damage to the child's self esteem and sense of right and wrong.Umahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04717377240212152065noreply@blogger.com